When you complain about a situation you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation or accept the situation. All else is madness.
I know that I can be an absolute control-freak and, being an introvert, I like to have things planned and then go according to plan. I, however, am proud to say that I have developed a skill for accepting things that I cannot change. It probably comes with being a parent, or a wife, or an attorney, or too tired to change everything I would have wanted to, or a combination of all of the above.
This week I have been surrounded by people who have been whining and complaining about all that is going on in their lives, minor inconveniences or things that just don’t go according to their plan and their schedule.
Okay, you may have an asshole of a boss? Well, maybe you haven’t been working the way you should and maybe you should be grateful that you have a job. So you’re bloated and feel fat? Drink more water and for heaven’s sake woman, put down the burger. Or, the electricity is out? Be grateful – it could have been your permanent living condition.
If we decided to, instead of complaining about everything that happens around us: stop, assess (can I change it? is it that big of a deal? will this matter in one month / one year / five years? can I learn something from this? or can I identify something to be grateful for through this inconvenience or setback?) and then act accordingly, life would be a lot less stressful and we would be a lot less negative.
If you’re unhappy in a situation: move, you aren’t a tree. If you want something, go for it. If you need something to go a different way, see what you can do about it. If you can’t do change it or make it better, make peace with it and make the best of a bad situation
Our society has become so used to complaining that it has become a way of life. There are call centres dedicated to handling complaints. Take a look at any FaceBook Community Page and you will read threads of complaints. Be in any conversation long enough and people will find something to complain about.
I am aware that I am complaining about people who complain – the irony is not lost on me, but, let’s look for reasons to be grateful. Let’s celebrate the roses instead of focusing on the thorns. And let’s be nicer people (your vibe attracts your tribe, right?).
Let’s not complain as much – don’t be a complaining negative asshole, no one likes a complaining, negative asshole.